Rant on relationships

by nikol0702

The biggest problem with relationships is that people think you have to have one in order to be happy. 

I feel like this leads people to jump into the first relationship they can without really thinking about why they are doing it.

Simply put, if you are trying to be in a relationship because you have crappy self-esteem and need another person to make you feel better, YOU SHOULD NOT BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

If you are trying to get a boyfriend/girlfriend because you think everyone else has one, YOU SHOULD NOT BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

If you think a relationship will make you happier, YOU SHOULD NOT BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Please, for the love of god, stop wasting your life chasing after relationships. Just stop waiting for some magical person to pop into your life so you can start living. Just get out there and do what you want to do without making a relationship the end goal. It will happen when it happens.

It sounds really counter-intuitive, but if you’re not focused on chasing other people, you can focus more on yourself, the person you want to become, and what you really want to do with your life. You are ready for a relationship when you stop needing one.

That way, when you do find yourself in a relationship, you’re not a clingy and obsessive partner who desperately needs some kind of validation on a consistent basis. That way, if you break up, it’s not like your entire life falls to pieces because you based your entire being around this person. That way, you will know your limits and expectations because you know yourself really well instead of finding yourself in the middle of a mess and then regretting things you did.

Why does it have to be so complicated?