“Why are you depressed?”

by nikol0702

The question “Why are you depressed?” makes me really fucking angry.

Like I know the people asking these questions are genuinely clueless, have no ill intent and ‘just want to know’, but after years and years of receiving this question, it really FUCKS ME OFF. Not the people themselves who are asking, but the question itself.

Its often not the case that people with depression have this pin point in their lives where we know whats caused our depression. And even if we do know whats caused it, its not as easy as going “Oh well that caused it now I just need to deal with that” because there isn’t much that can ‘cure’ the emotional pain and the memory we have of trauma. Often, we don’t know why we have depression. We don’t even know if its ‘caused’, maybe its just there because it is. We’ve suffered hardships and trauma, yeah, but so have others who don’t have depression. Why us? Maybe its a mixture of things. Maybe its genetic.

Depression is a fucking legitimate mental illness that effects the chemicals in your brain and it takes a while to find a medication or coping method or whatever else that works for you because every damn person is different, and sometimes you may not find one at all.

People also need to stop thinking depression can be ‘cured’. That we can just ‘find’ what caused it and overcome that and be all fine and dandy. Often, it can’t be cured. Often its just kept at bay with the right meds or something.

And almost always, we don’t know why we have depression. There often is no pin point. There is hardly ever an explanation.

People need to get out of this mindset. People need to stop asking us why we have depression. We already ask ourselves this all the time and we have no answers.